Studies show that the quality of the relationship between counsellor and client is an important factor in successful counselling whatever style of counselling is used (Castonguay et al, 2010, Escudero et al, 2010, Friedlander, 2011). Humans are born out of and into relationships and need them to thrive, which is why my relationship with each client is so important.
Counselling is not friendship or parenting, though it contains some of the warmth, connection and care of both. When we form our unique, warm, professional relationship you can bring whatever you need to without fear of recrimination or shame. I may challenge you if that's appropriate and I'll ask you questions sometimes to clarify our joint understanding. It can be hard to articulate what's happened or how you are feeling, but that's ok. You don't have to be smooth, articulate or even grown-up, in your counselling session. You can get things off your chest and say the stuff that you maybe don't want your loved ones to hear, even about them. It'll go no further, hurt nobody and probably help you work out what you want to do about it.
There are many different approaches to counselling and it's important that your counsellor is qualified, a member of an established professional body (such as the BACP, UKCP amongst others) and committed first and foremost to client well-being. Undertaking rigorous training, having experienced therapy as a client, CPD and regular supervision are all good indicators that your counsellor is committed to their work. An often overlooked but essential part of being an effective counsellor is your counsellor's self-care. Counsellors are all human and I'm certainly a work in progress but I keep an eye on the balance in my life and my health and well-being so I'm in the best shape, mind, body and spirit, to help hold the therapeutic work you do.
I offer a confidential, non-judgemental, professional, informed and caring counselling relationship with the aim of nurturing and supporting you as you find new clarity, understanding and freedom. I'm on your side.
Working together, we'd explore your situation and feelings, working towards your answers. Both of my venues offer a comfortable therapy space away from the distractions of everyday life, where you can express yourself freely. For online and phone appointments I use my Loughborough counselling room, holding the same boundaries of confidentiality and time, whilst taking the same care of my clients.