Counselling can be hard, uncomfortable work. It's not friendship or parenting, though it contains some of the warmth, connection and care of both. Unlike other caring people in your life, I don't advise and I work within a clear boundary of confidentiality and that can take getting used to.
When we form our unique, warm, professional relationship you can bring whatever you need to without fear of recrimination or shame. I might challenge you if that's appropriate and I'll ask you questions to clarify our joint understanding, but our work will be guided by what you bring each week, rather than a set agenda. It can be hard to articulate what's happened or how you're feeling, but that's ok. You don't have to be smooth, articulate or even grown-up, in your counselling session. You can get things off your chest and say the stuff that you maybe don't want your loved ones to hear, even about them. It'll go no further, hurt nobody and probably help you work out what you want to do about it.
Studies show that the quality of the relationship between counsellor and client is an important factor in successful counselling whatever style of counselling is used (Castonguay et al, 2010, Escudero et al, 2010, Friedlander, 2011). Humans are born out of and into relationships and need them to thrive, which is why my relationship with each client is so important. When you decide to enter counselling you'll be more open to being in the therapeutic relationship, collaborating and making changes happen. For that reason counselling works best when you are ready to give it a try, when you choose it. If it would help you to find support for someone you care about I'm happy to hear your concerns too. Please be aware though that I am unable to discuss my clients or their sessions and can only break confidentiality in extreme circumstances which I explain to clients when we begin working together.
There are many different approaches to counselling and it's important that your counsellor is qualified, a member of an established professional body (such as the BACP, UKCP amongst others) and committed first and foremost to client well-being. Undertaking rigorous training, having experienced therapy as a client, CPD and regular supervision are all good indicators that your counsellor is committed to their work.
I offer a confidential, non-judgemental, professional, informed and caring counselling relationship with the aim of nurturing and supporting you as you find new clarity, understanding and freedom. I'm on your side.