I believe that we are born out of and into relationships and need them to thrive. Relationships, both with ourselves and others, are so central to our well-being that when they fall short or go wrong at any stage in life it can cause immediate, sometimes long-lasting pain. Nobody wants to live with pain, so we do what we can to avoid or dull it. But that takes a lot of energy, sometimes involving choices and behaviours that aren't quite right for us, where we aren't truly ourselves, or that are downright destructive. Then life throws change, loss, disappointment and hardship into the mix and it gets too tough or complex to manage alone Or you might just feel down but aren't sure why. You are not alone!
There are many different approaches to counselling and it's important that your counsellor is qualified, a member of an established professional body (such as the BACP or UKCP) and committed first and formost to client well-being. Undertaking rigorous training, having experienced therapy as a client, CPD and regular supervision are all good indicators that your counsellor is a professional, but the relationship that you form with your counsellor is central to the work. In fact, studies show that it is the quality of the relationship between counsellor and client that is the major factor in successful counselling whatever style of counselling is used (Castonguay et al, 2010, Escudero et al, 2010, Friedlander, 2011).
I offer a confidential, non-judgemental, professional, informed and caring counselling relationship with the aim of nurturing and supporting you as you find new clarity, understanding and freedom. I'm on your side.
We would work together to explore your situation and feelings, working towards your answers. Both of my venues offer a safe therapy space away from the distractions of everyday life, where you can express yourself freely. For my online appointments I use my Loughborough counselling room and hold the same boundaries of confidentiality and time, and take the same care of my clients. I think of myself as holding the lantern, maybe (metaphorically)holding your hand as you find your route through the forest, rather than dragging you on the latest 'must follow' path or following someone else's preferred route.
At the moment I'm project managing the development of my new, purpose-designed Loughborough office, due to open in September. It's a short walk from the town centre and there is easy off-road parking.
Once the Nottingham Counselling Service building reopens, it offers the advantages of parking close by, a convenient central Nottingham location, a comfortable waiting area and a friendly, professional team to welcome you.